Dine with Style – Manners Matter

上週我幫二個乾兒子報名上餐桌禮儀的課程, 在Los Gatos Viva義大利餐廳(註一)上課, 是真的有根據每天上課的內容, 端上不同的菜給小朋友吃.

第一天學習Direct Eye Contact, 如何Making Introduction, 將A介紹給B, 將B介紹給A, 如何握手, 注意聽和記得別人的名字, 對於別人的談話感到興趣by asking questions, make comments and listen, 不要打斷別人的談話, 如何禮貌的結束談話. 當天學習如何拿及使用餐刀, 刮一點奶油放在自己的小盤上, 然後才將奶油抹在麵包上 (我相信很多大人都不懂這個禮儀); 另外介紹Finger foods (Tempura green beans, cherry tomatoes, French Fries, crackers).

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第二天學習如何正確使用湯匙 – between resting (I am still eating) and closeout (I am finished), 如何用湯匙喝湯.  他們還有吃冰淇淋 (was 102 degree outside), 不過冰淇淋是放在玻璃杯, 他們學如何用左手拇指和食指拿玻璃杯. 老師還講有關不同時期的用餐禮儀讓他們認識, 還指導他們寫Thank You Card.

Tristan寫: Dear Godmother, thanks for the popcicles yesterday.  I really needed them on the hot sunny day.  You are the best godmother ever. Love, Tristan. (這真的是他自己寫的)

Dylan寫: Dear Godmother, Thank you for giving me wonderful summer classes. I like the class. You are a nice godmother. Dylan. (這是他說給老師寫)

第三天學習使用叉子. 刀叉使用方式分為二種: American Style (刀子在右, 叉子在左, 切完後將刀子放下, 叉子換到右手叉東西吃), Continental Style (又稱歐洲式, 一樣是刀子在右, 叉子在左 但是切完後不換手, 而是用叉子的背面吃).

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第四天學習電話禮儀 – How to answering the phone, taking messages, making calls, phone courtesies, receiving scary calls, and handling 911 emergencies.  They had role-play exercises.

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第五天每個人要介紹一個國家. 我前一天就上網把台灣的海景, 山景, 台北101的夜景圖檔抓下來印成8×11大小的照片, 然後教Tristan自己寫幾句簡單的介紹文, 讓他講, 讓Dylan拿照片. 因為前一天練習很多次, 等到當天他是倒背如流, 不過停頓還是不夠久, 因為弟弟還是有點跟不上而手忙腳亂.

Hi everyone,

My name is Tristan and this is my brother Dylan.  I am from san Jose.  My country is Taiwan.  Taiwan is shaped like a sweet potato.  Taiwan has beautiful beaches and mountains.  We also have a tall building called Taipei 101.  Thank you everyone.

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老師Maria Chou每天都會給家長一封信, 信的內容就是把前一天所上的內容和重點總結, 藉此讓父母瞭解孩子們都上了哪些禮儀. 畢竟這些禮儀花一週上完, 必須由父母帶著孩子持續下去才有用, 否則的話, 課上完, 孩子也忘光了, 豈不可惜.

老師最後列了一份推薦閱讀的童書單:

What You Never Knew About Fingers, Forks, and Chopsticks by Patricia Lauber.

A Smart Girl's Guide to Manners by Nancy Holyoke

How to Behave and Why by Munro Leaf

How to Speak Politely and Why by Munro Leaf

Emily Post's The Guide to Good Manners for Kids by Peggy Post

365 Manners Kids Should Know by Sheryl Eberly

Are You Quite Polite? Silly Dilly Manners Song by Alan Katz

Don't Slurp Your Soup by Lynne Gibbs

The On Deck Circle of Life by Harley A. Robert

Don't Forget Your Etiquette: The Essential Guide to Misbehavior by David Greenburg

Can You Greet the Whole World? 12 Common Phrases in 12 Different Languages by Lezlie Evans

註一: Viva Restaurant的Happy Hour選擇不是很多, 味道也只是Ok, 但是我對餐廳提供給孩子們最後一天的上課場地很感冒. 外面是八十幾度的熱, 他們居然把一群十幾個孩子放在沒遮陽的戶外, 連大人都嫌太晒而不會願意坐的地方, 我就覺得有點欺負小孩不會抱怨了.  上課最後一天是週五, 餐廳生意很好, 所以原本室內的Private Room沒得用 (這當然也跟老師付給餐廳多少錢也有關啦), 室內的用餐區和室外有遮陽篷的Happy Hour區也不給用, 要孩子坐在室外沒遮陽篷的地方就真的太過份了. 後來經由多位家長 (包括我) 不斷跟服務生抱怨, 餐廳老闆終於出面道歉, 把孩子移到室內, 吧台後面那區室內的角落. 光是這一點, 我在也不會去這家餐廳了.

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