Do you ever feel like ‘hopelessness’ and ‘despair’ have been your only companions, lately? Do you feel like running away; to a place far away, far from everyone you know, far from everything you feel, just far from all the pain?
You’re not alone! Most of us, if not everyone, have felt this way in life at one point or the other. And the fact that we’ve all survived till now is a testimony to the fact that it is definitely possible to turn your life around, to make yourself strong enough in order to stop feeling this way and to regain that lost faith you had in yourself.
So if you’re feeling broken right now, if you feel like nothing in the world is going your way and if you feel like there’s no hope left, then it’s the right time to remind yourself of the following:
1. You won’t know true happiness if you’ve never seen real pain
It may sound ridiculous right now but this pain that you’re feeling, this horrible gut-wrenching pain; just hold it close, feel its extent in the deepest corners of your soul and let it change you in ways you couldn’t ever imagine. Because you ARE going to come out of it and when you do, the happiness you’ll feel, the pride you’ll have in yourself and the life-changing experience it’ll provide you will be amazing! More amazing than anything you’ve ever known. You’ll come out of it stronger, wiser and more content than you were ever before.
2. Don’t try to fight what you’re feeling
Don’t hold it in, don’t avoid how you’re feeling and don’t pretend that everything’s going normal only for everything to explode at the most unexpected moment! What you’re going through is perfectly normal. No person has the ability to meet different people and eventually have so many of them leave or get so close to their dream job only to get rejected at the very last stage or have their heart broken by the love of their life and then just go through life as normally as before.
Let the hurt and anger out, take your time and if and when someone asks, accept the fact that you are not just doing ‘fine’.
3. Remember why you’re here
You always had this one passion, this one thing that you had worked tirelessly for, this thing that had become the bane of your existence. And even if you were still exploring what you want from life, then don’t let the exploration stop. So what if life has gone a little off track on the way? Look endlessly for what it is that you love or pick up right from where you stopped, define a specific goal for yourself and don’t let this life go to waste.
4. Look at the bigger picture
We know how heartbroken you are about your recent breakup. We know how badly you wanted that job. We know a lot of your close friends have moved on to bigger and better things, and all of that sucks! It really does, but try to stop obsessing over those things for just a moment and think about what you still have. Look closely at all the romantic options you can still explore, acknowledge the friends who never left, look closely at the job you’re actually getting.
There are so many wonderful things out there in the world just waiting for you to experience them. All you have to do is look beyond all this temporary heartbreak and pain.
5. Contact the friends and family who really care
No matter what position you’ve achieved in life, no matter how far away you shifted and no matter how badly you once fought with each other, some people in life will always be your constants. They’re the people who truly love you, who’d leave no stone unturned just to see you smile and the people who can actually get you out of this bad phase. So please stop hesitating, pick up that phone and find the courage to tell them exactly what you’re going through. I promise you, you won’t regret it!
6. Find your happy place
When we’re going through a tough time, we tend to focus all our time and energy in thinking about all of the things that are going wrong, to keep wondering what we ever did to deserve this and to forget all of the things that can possibly bring a little joy. Just stop sulking and lying around in your bed all day. Go to that party you had been looking forward for months, watch that movie you had planned with your sister and dedicate an entire day to reading your favorite book. The things that made you happy still have the power to do that. All you have to do is get up and embrace them.
7. Everything you feel right now is only temporary
Neither pain nor happiness can remain permanently in our life. Life is a series of ups and downs and that’s what makes it absolutely beautiful. I mean, think about it! How boring would this life be if everything just kept going at a constant, never-ending happy state? You wouldn’t get to experience every kind of emotion, you wouldn’t grow into someone different and you wouldn’t be the person you are today. So accept this phase in your life as something temporary, wait for this storm to pass you by and then ultimately enjoy the happiness that it will definitely lead to.