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50 Self-Help Books Classics

This is an index of 50 self-help books that we consider classics — the ones that you should probably consider reading in your lifetime. These are some of the most influential self-help books around that have been read by millions of people — and helped many of them.

Self-help books are popular for a reason — they are an inexpensive way to try out something different in your life, or look at something from a different perspective. Change only happens when not only do we want to change, but we also have the right tools in order to implement effective change. Self-help books can provide those tools (but you’ll still have to provide the motivation yourself).

These self-help classics stand the test of time when it comes to good self-help books. While not every self-help book will help everyone who reads it, they do help the majority of the people. Not only do you have to read the book, though… you need to put the ideas in the book into action in your every day life. This takes time and patience, as change doesn’t happen in people overnight.

These self-help books were collected from recommendations from psychologists, therapists, and other mental health professionals, and cover the gamut of topics from general personality, to relationships, depression, and more.

The 50 Best Self-Help Books

The list below is not in any particular order. Remember, a book can provide you the outline for change, but ultimately it is up to you to put that change into practice in your own life.

1. “Flow” by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

2. “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey

3. “The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have” by Mark Nepo

4. “Thinking, Fast and Slow” by Daniel Kahneman

5. “Psycho Cybernetics” by Maxwell Maltz

6. “Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time” by Brian Tracy

7. “How Good Do We Have to Be?” by Harold Kushner

8. “Getting Things Done” by David Allen

9. ”How To Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie

10. “Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation” by Dan Siegel

11. “The Highly Sensitive Person” by Elaine Aron

12. “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment” by Eckhart Tolle

13. “Mind Over Mood, Second Edition: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think” by Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky

14. “10% Happier” by Dan Harris

15. “The Road Less Traveled” by M. Scott Peck

16. “Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts” by Marshall Goldsmith

17. “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl

18. “Courage to Change” by Al-Anon Family Groups

19. “The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself” by Michael Singer

20. “The Four Agreements” by Janet Mills

21. “The Feeling Good Handbook” by David Burns

22. “Happy at Last” by Richard O’Connor

23. “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff… And It’s All Small Stuff” by Richard Carlson

24. “Beyond Blue” by Therese Borchard

25. “Being Mortal” by Atul Gawande

26. “The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse” by Dan Allender

27. “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” by Joseph Murphy

28. “Wherever You Go, There You Are” by Jon Kabat-Zinn

29. “A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook” by Bob Stahl and Elisha Goldstein

30. “Unlocking the Secrets of Self-Esteem: A Guide to Building Confidence and Connection One Step at a Time” by Marie Hartwell-Walker

31. “Grieving Mindfully: A Compassionate and Spiritual Guide to Coping with Loss” by Sameet M. Kumar

32. “Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma” by Peter Levine and Ann Frederick

33. “The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg

34. “Waking Up: A Guide to Spirituality without Religion” by Sam Harris

35. “The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results” by Gary Keller, Jay Papasan

36. “Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success” by John Maxwell

37. ”Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success” by Adam Grant

38. ”Never Eat Alone” by Keith Ferrazzi

39. “Willpower” by Roy Baumeister and John Tierney

40. “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers

41. “The Seat of the Soul: 25th Anniversary Edition with a Study Guide” by Gary Zukav

42. “Meditations” by Marcus Aurelius

43. “How to Survive the Loss of a Love” by Peter McWilliams and Harold Bloomfield

44. “The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection, and Courage” by Bene Brown

45. “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden

46. “Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life” by Henry Cloud

47. “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman

48. “Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead” by Sheryl Sandberg

49. “The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want” by Sonja Lyubomirsky

50. “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” by Melody Beattie

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愛在頭腦靜止的時候現身 – 洪仲清臨床心理師 


























當下的釋放: 解身體的痛,療心裡的傷。釋放的盡頭就是愛

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覺醒: 尋找真實的自己

20110329PalmSprings今年我即將邁入四十歲, 39-40這一年似乎是人生的一個關卡, 因為我自己在這一年遇到重大轉折, 開始探索之後發現, 許多人在他們自己的39-40那一年也都遇到一些困難和危機.

“危機即是轉機” – 這句話當我正在危機當下時, 是不太能理解的, 只有等到事過境遷, 再回頭看這個危機時, 才真正了解它的含義. 危機的發生, 正好給我一個機會停下腳步, 好好思考, 領悟一些事情後, 做些大大小小的改變, 因為有挫折, 才有成長.

你知道, 愛自己 (Love yourself) 是什麼意思嗎?

你知道, 快樂來自內心 (Happiness comes from within) 是什麼意思嗎?

在自我探索的這個過程中, 我讀了一些很棒的書籍, 這些書, 幫助我了解自己, 了解與父母的關係和成長的過程是如何對長大後的自己有如此深的影響, 了解自己某些下意識的認知, 行為, 反應, 其實都有原因, 只是自己不自覺而已.  這些書也幫我了解, 什麼叫愛自己, 什麼叫快樂來自內心, 可以說我是到了四十歲, 才知道怎麼做自己, 怎麼愛自己, 怎麼做一個身心健全的女人.

1. 蘇絢慧的《其實我們都受傷了》《其實你沒有學會愛自己

2. 張德芬的《遇見未知的自己》《活出全新的自己》《遇見心想事成的自己》《愛上自己的不完美》《愛到極致是放手

3. 鄧惠文的《學習, 在一起的幸福

4. 周志建的《故事的療癒力量》《擁抱不完美

5. 史戴分 格羅茲 (Stephen Grosz)的 《說不出的故事, 最想被聽見》(The Examined Life)

6. 約翰.詹姆斯 (John W James)《一個人的療癒: 真正的放下, 是你不介意再度提起 》(The Grief Recovery Handbook)

在這漫長的一年裡, 很慶幸我有一些很棒的朋友, 不離不棄, 即便我處在人生最低潮, 情緒最不穩, 反反覆覆, 上上下下, 就像雲霄飛車一樣, 他們還是依舊在身邊陪伴, 聆聽, 支持, 鼓勵, 我由衷感謝你們.  希望我自己將來, 也能這樣幫助在受苦的人走出困境, 這就是最好的回饋.

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Flower Arrangement Books & Websites

買了很多插花的書來看, 這裡分享一下各本書的特色.

EPSON001The Art of Floral Arranging by Eileen W. Johnson. 這本書是由Floral School New York的創辦人Eileen W. Johnson所寫, 書中有六款花型, 皆由她所聘請業界最好的花藝老師示範 – Michael George, Chris Giftos, Charles Masson, Remco Van Vliet, Meredith Waga, Felipe Sastre.  每款花型都有列舉所使用的花材名稱和數量, 步驟圖和文字說明, 還有注意事項. 書的最後有將常用的花名按照顏色分類列出.

EPSON002The Flower Recipe Book by Alethea Harampolis and Jill Rizzo (Studio Choo in SF). 這本書應該可以歸類為插花聖經, 因為它是少數會把花的彩色照片和名字一起呈現 (多數只列出花名), 不但貼心的把所有的花和葉, 以Base Foliage, Base Flowers, Focal Flowers, Secondary Flowers, and Bits, and additional Textural Ingredients的方式分類排列 (有照片), 還將不同的花器分類並做簡單的解說, 也有基本的Flower care, cutting techniques, wiring, stabilizing, etc.

書中以常見的43種花, 各做三種插法 – 單一種花, 搭配別種花, 特殊場合. 不但列出花的種類和數量, 還有使用的花器和步驟圖. 所有的照片簡潔美麗, 我很感謝作者和出版社的用心. 如果你是插花新手, 這本書會很有幫助.

EPSON003Flowers for the Table: Arrangements and Bouquets for All Seasons by Ariella Chezar (SF Floral Designer). 這本書按照四季分類, 除了鮮花, 也將水果含括進去當素材, 美麗的照片搭配作者個人的故事, 適合給有經驗的花藝者當作靈感來源.




EPSON005Garden Bouquets and Beyond by Suzy Bales. 作者本身喜好園藝, 她以自家的花園為出發點, 按照四季生長的花來介紹, 除了插在常見的花器以外, 也有介紹花圈, 但是沒有製作步驟, 所以也是比較適合有經驗的花藝者當作靈感來源.




Screen Shot 2014-03-27 at 6.20.22 PMSimply Elegant Flowers by Michael George. 他的花藝特色就是Monochromatic – a single variety of flower in one color (with vases normally clear and square). 單色的單種花材 (例如黃色海竽, 白色鬱金香, ), 但用的數量多, 插起來的感覺可以很優雅, 也可以很震撼, 我挺愛的. 書中前幾章有教你怎麼插出Michael George的風格, 後面就有混合花材 (包括使用水果), 使用不同花器, 整體上屬於較為複雜的花型 (也是按四季分類); 除了玻璃瓶, 有幾篇介紹插在綠色泡棉的.  書中還包含一些他成長的故事 (父親開花店), 他買東西的店, 一些技巧等等, 雖然大部份都是美麗照片居多, 有介紹步驟的算少數, 但是還是蠻值得一看的.

Screen Shot 2014-03-27 at 6.19.13 PMFresh Flower Arranging by Stephen Wicks and Mark Welford.  這本書應該歸類為插花聖經之一, 書中從Theory (vase, color, shape, tools), Care, Maintain, Basic arrangement methods (vase, hand-tied, foam, wired, tying, wrapping), 然後用許多示範來做例子, 每款示範都有包含使用花材及數量, 可以替代的其他花材做變化, 使用的花材常見, 取之容易, 選擇多, 還有步驟圖以及彩色大張的成品照片, 風格非常現代, 讓人看了會非常想自己動手試試. 書的最後有列出花藝相關的組織, 幾個大城市的花市, 花藝產品網路商店.

Screen Shot 2014-03-27 at 6.19.37 PMBringing Nature Home by Nicolette Owen. 這本書以四季分章節, 以家做拍照背景, 選用不同花器, 且以比較隨意自然的插花風格來呈現.  

Screen Shot 2014-03-27 at 6.19.29 PMPaula Pryke’s Flower School by Paula Pryke.

Screen Shot 2014-03-27 at 6.45.18 PMFlowers: The Complete Book of Floral Design by Paula Pryke.


往後有再買新書, 會陸續加進這篇文章.


Martha Stewart Flower Arrangements – by season or by color.

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Filoli – Springtime Floral Design

Beautiful Blooming Branches, Fabulous Flowers and More! Springtime Floral Designs 是選修課之一, 老師剛好就是我的插花聖經之一: 
The Flower Recipe Book 的作者 Alethea Harampolis and Jill Rizzo (Studio Choo in south SF). 我事先沒注意看資料, 不然我就會把書帶去給他們簽名了 (~扼腕).


Jill事先先插好一盆花給我們看, 然後按照順序, 用相同的花材再另外插一盆示範 (上圖是事先插好, 下圖是現場示範, 雖然花材相同, 但因為每款花材長的不完全一樣, 所以插出來的花, 只能說風格很像).


我很喜歡Jill的插花風格, 很自然輕鬆, 不是傳統制式風格, 但是也比較難學, 因為一切都是憑感覺.

然後就換我們學生插一盆, 還好有幾分類似.


下了課就拿去這週要賣的房子裡放, 讓主臥的浴室增添不少美感吧.

他們的第二本書也快要出版囉; 有興趣去他們位在South SF的Studio上課的人, 可以上官網購物頁查看細節 (目前四月和五月的二場都額滿了). 他們正準備開始一個CSF Jar Subscription (CSA for Flower), 每週送一次她們插好的花, 如果南灣有十個人參加, 她們就會把花送到南灣一個地點, 讓大家領取, 誰有興趣的啊???