Dating, Self-Improvement

The Healing in Relationships Program by Artie Wu | Preside Life

感情 – 應該是所有人的生命中最常問的前三大問題 (感情, 金錢, 工作), 不論是卜卦問神算流年或諮商, 問得不外乎這三個主題 (我自己的經驗也是), 情侶或夫妻之間的感情問題大概是一輩子的功課 (親子問題緊接在後). 我這輩子一路走到這, 也經歷了不少人生上的各式問題, 也因此開啟了我走上自我成長和修行的這條路, 因為我希望能減少痛苦, 尤其是來自心靈上的痛苦 (當然也不想有身體上的痛苦), 所以我也接受了好幾年的心理諮商, 看了一些有關感情/婚姻或身心靈方面的書, 接觸和學習不同的療癒方式和身心靈的課程, 慢慢的發現, 追根究底到最後, 很多根源都來自童年, 甚至在媽媽的子宮就開始 (暫且不提前世那一塊). 每個人的個性不同, 對於所發生的事的接收和反應也不同, 加上兄弟姐妹之間的年紀差距 (代表事情發生的時間點不同), 所以即便是同一個家庭的兄弟姐妹, 最後的發展也不同.

我的療癒個案每次跟我說她覺得她不太正常, 我都會用很理解和溫柔的微笑回答說, 沒有一個人是正常的, 每個人身上都背負很多來自兒時的傷痛, 只是多寡和深淺不同, 所以站在那個角度來看, 我們都很正常, 因為我不知道哪個家庭是真的都沒有任何問題, 就算有, 也是極少數. 當我們日子過得順利時, 我們通常不太會花時間精力去思考一些 “重要的人生課題”, 只有當重大事件發生時, 例如生重病, 有親人過世, 離婚, 或者像這次的武漢疫情, 美國加州政府下令就地避難已經12週, 還不知道要持續多久, 所有事情瞬間停擺, 等等特殊情況下, 我們被迫放下原本習慣的生活模式, 多出很多時間不知所措的時候, 才有機會迫使我們去思考, 我們人生走到這一步, 目前擁有的 (不論是工作, 關係狀態, 財務狀況, 生活方式等等) 是我們想要的嗎?

所以有些看似大災難的事件, 換個角度想, 也許是上天給你的禮物, 危機也可能是個轉機, 端看你用哪個角度和心情去看, 你會有完全不同的體驗.

回到感情問題, 有一些我們本身的問題如果沒有解決, 我們會一直遇到不同的人, 重複相同或類似的問題, 然後分開. 沒知覺的人會一直重複這樣的狀況, 有知覺的人會開始尋求幫助, 找諮商師, 看書或上課, 然後先解決自己本身的問題, 從自己開始改變, 才會開始慢慢看到不同的結果.

臉書是一個很厲害的地方, 因為我不知道為什麼, 它突然出現這個人的影片在我的臉書上, 而且就剛好是有關感情問題. 看完他的預告短片, 再點進去看他的網站, 他的自我介紹裡說他是哈佛和史丹福畢業的, 之前創辦二個科技公司, 從小開始打坐冥想超過三十年, 2011年開始這個Preside是因為興趣, 他想幫助大家學習讓自己的腦袋靜下來, 所以他寫了很多主題的文章, 和錄了很多影片, 根據他幫助過的上千人所累積的經驗, 將課程分成三大類 Meditation, Healing, Bliss, 然後每一類裡再細分幾種課程. 他的Open Group冥想課程是免費的, 而且都只有三到五分鐘, 很適合沒經驗但想開始嘗試冥想的人. 他另外還有付費的私人團體冥想課程. 而他的Healing課程裡有三個主題 – 七天的Self, 四週的Parenting, 12週的Realtionship, 看到學生的課後感言都非常正面和激勵, 讓我很想試試.

以下影片是有關12週的Relationship program,

How to Decide on Ending a Relationship

When a person is thinking about leaving their relationship, one of the biggest fears is “fear of making the wrong choice” – either leaving a secure relationship and not finding something better or staying and suffering even more, with no lasting improvement and wasting precious time. The reason it’s so hard to make a “stay-or-leave” decision with confidence is that we often don’t know the true deeper reason we are actually unhappy in our relationships – which is deeper than the typical complaints of poor communication, lack of trust and diminished passion.

In reality, the deepest core reason for unhappiness in a relationship is most deeply rooted in the pre-existing emotional wounds that each partner has had – often from childhood – even before you both got together or even met. These preexisting emotional wounds will often be overlooked in the passionate beginning of a relationship, but then, left unhealed, these emotional wounds will be the root cause of all other major relationship issues later on.

The ideal process for assessing your relationship, with full clarity and confidence, would be to:

A. Map the preexisting emotional wounds of each partner (see below).

B. Begin healing the wound pattern in each partner, starting with the easiest wounds first and working up from there, slowly.

C. Make an interim plan to reduce co-wounding each other, to give the healing process some time to take effect.

After this process, you may decide that continuing the relationship no longer makes sense, and that is a possible outcome as well.

But with a full and proper wound mapping, you will at least be able to make your “stay-or-leave” decision with full confidence and clarity, to save your energy for the road ahead.

The Healing in Relationships Program

To help with this entire process, I teach a powerful, intensive program called “Healing in Relationships”, which dives deeply into how co-wounding in relationships happens, based on a powerful method of “mapping” each partner’s preexisting emotional wounds with a series of simple but comprehensive exercises. Using these customized “wound mappings” for each of you, we then identify how your wound patterns cause each of you to accidentally co-wound and “poke the preexisting wounds” of each other, which then leads to an escalating spiral of back-and-forth over the years and even decades.

Once you have this mapping, it will act as a kind of “x-ray vision” for you to see the real dynamics of why there is so much frustration and unhappiness, and you can then make a clear and confident decision about whether you want to stay and work on these issues (which the program also helps with), or if it may be time to stop the relationship in its current form. You do not have to convince your partner to do the program with you – it is designed to be done by you on a solo basis, individually and in private, and once you have the full two-way wound mapping of the relationship, you can make a plan as to what you want to do, and how to share your learnings with your partner.

Watch the video below to hear the introductory session of this powerful program which is completely confidential, hassle-free and 100% online.

I guarantee that by the end of this 12-minute briefing, you will already feel better, and will have a clear path for how to fully heal the patterns of co-wounding in your own romantic relationship, and how to unlock the full power of the nurturing, support and nourishment in your life that you fully desire and fully deserve.

Warmly,

Artie
Founder, preside meditation

有興趣的可以上他的網站看看, 或是點選他的文章影片, 希望這個資訊能幫助到需要幫助的人. 自我成長需要耐心, 時間和意願, 但最大的受益者, 是我們自己.

最後想再和大家分享另外一篇來得及巧的文章, (她的文章總是來得剛剛好, 非常奇妙), 她的部落格上還有許多很棒的文章喔!

只要向宇宙請求指引,只要你願意耐心地走下去讓宇宙開始愛你

親愛的,

當你感到苦惱時,
你需要明白,
每一次困苦之中,
你都在生成一個全新的自我,
它正在努力誕生,
也許你現在遇到困境,
也或許你過去遇到了危機,
意識中沒有時間限制,
你需要重新的調整內在,
改變自己的視野,
釋放自己的痛苦,
原諒自己的無助,
最終看見自己正在學習什麼。
當你穿越這樣的困境,
那裏正在教會你一種品質,
將你的變得,
更勇敢,
更堅定,
更清晰,
更有愛,
更有耐心,
更明白你想要的是什麼。
實際上你正在被照顧著,
只要當你專注著,
內在最高的道路,
在這條路上,
你會發現你會走得更輕鬆,
當你走著別人的道路,
你會覺得自己走得很費力,
宇宙給予你的是,
真正內在的核心品質,
但你不能用特定方式,
要求宇宙給予你滿足,
而是讓宇宙用各種方法,
來滿足你的需求,
那種安定、
那種被愛、
那種放鬆,
為你帶來巨大的豐盛。
你為自己設定什麼舊有意象,
當你擁有這些陳舊的畫面,
那些執著與煩惱,
就會再次顯現,
放下那種執著,
這種執著會為你自身帶來限制,
這樣的限制卻帶來痛苦,
為自己創建新的意象,
妳可以請求指引,
並信任那來到的指引,
可能只是一些瑣事,
然而這些瑣事會不停的幫助你前進,
使你越來越靠近,
內心所想要擁有的品質,
有時候你可能懷疑,
這真的有幫助嗎?
因為太過於簡單、
太過於細小,
使你覺得,
那並不可能會轉變什麼,
但請相信那樣的直覺,
一但你決定,
往內在最高方向前進,
帶來的豐盛,
超乎你的想像,
只需要時間,
給予你自己時間,
當你有問題,
把問題交給宇宙,
讓宇宙幫助你,
當你有困難,
把問題交給宇宙,
讓宇宙指引你,
你並不孤單,
你並沒有被拋棄,
那裏總是為你敞開,
只要你願意耐心地走下去。
祝福你
亞蒂絲
Education, Life Style

1440 Multiversity – Santa Cruz

位在Scotts Valley (Santa Cruz County)的1440 Multiversity是由一對從科技業致富的夫妻Joanie and Scott Kriens (former CEO of Juniper Networks)在2010年成立1440 Foundation開始的一個計畫, 他們發現網路的發展並沒有讓人與人之間的關係更緊密, 也沒有讓大家更認識真實的自己, 每個人每天都有1440分鐘, 但我們卻常常讓時間流逝, 而沒有好好照顧自己, 他們想創造一個環境, 提供大家來進修, 來療癒, 來社交, 來放鬆. 原址本來是Bethany University (四年制私立基督大學 1919-2001), 佔地75英畝, 環繞著紅木森林, 於2012/2013賣給Joanie and Scott Kriens, 開始他們四年半的改建計畫, 1440 Multiversity於2017年完工, 開始營運. 到2018年, 他們已經投資了$47 million, 擁有112位員工.

CBSN Bay Area 2018

從灣區開車過去, 不塞車大概不用一小時就可以到, 所以當我發現我這週末有空, 想找個地方放鬆, 這地方再合適不過了. 他們的課程很多種 (費用包括住宿, 三餐, 課程), 你也可以不上課, 純粹去渡個小假 (Rest & Renewal), 有幾種不同的住宿選擇, 食物新鮮當季美味, 園區內有Hiking Trails, 有Spa, 光是環繞著紅木森林就是一個享受.

這原本是舊大學的教堂

我忘記拍廚房取餐處和三餐食物, 只拍了超大室內用餐區, 室外也有很多用餐桌椅. 可以想像夏天熱鬧的景象 (可以打電話問一下你要去的那個週末是否很多人).

Cafe – 有義式咖啡, 冰淇淋, 餅乾, 其他零食和飲料 (另外付費)

我這次選最便宜的PODS (Share Bathrooms), 整棟PODS Dorm有幾間房我不是很確定, 不過每間房有八個Pods, 上層床號是雙數 (天花板較高, 樓梯窄小, 感覺較隱密), 下層床號是單數. 我建議選靠窗這頭, 因為房門開關很大聲. 房間內沒有電視或電話, 但有WIFI.

每床有保險箱, 閱讀燈, 面紙盒, 二個枕頭, 四條不同尺寸的毛巾, 額外一條薄被 (可以跟櫃台多要被子), 衣架.

共用的浴室和廁所是男女分開, 不知道各有幾間, 不過每間有三間浴室和三間廁所, 二個琉璃台共四個洗手台, 有吹風機, 洗髮潤絲精和沐浴乳.

Heated outdoor tub (因為很小, 我覺得不夠格稱泳池)

Guided Trail Tours

如果是三天二夜(五六日)的課程, 大概的課程表如下,

Friday

4:30-5:00pm Check-in, Welcome Gathering (二點就可以到, 到處走走晃晃, 但四點才能進房)

5:00-6:00pm Free classes (Tai Chi, Qigong, Yoga, Meditation)

5:30-7:30pm Dinner

7:00-10:00 Live Music at Common Grounds (Cafe)

7:30-9:00pm Opening Session

Saturday

7:00-8:00am Free classes (Tai Chi, Qigong, Yoga, Meditation)

7:00-9:00am Breakfast

9:00-12:00pm Morning Session

12:00-2:00pm Lunch

1:00-1:45pm Guided Nature Walk (Trails)

2:00-4:00pm Afternoon Session

5:00-6:15pm Free classes (Tai Chi, Qigong, Yoga, Meditation)

5:30-7:30pm Dinner

7:00-10:00 Live Music at Common Grounds (Cafe)

Sunday

7:00-8:00am Free classes (Tai Chi, Qigong, Yoga, Meditation)

7:00-9:00am Breakfast (11:00後房門卡就不能用, 但你還是可以使用Outdoor Heated Tub, 到處走走)

9:00-11:00pm Morning Session

12:00-2:00pm Lunch

1:00-1:45pm Guided Nature Walk (Trails)

這裡是離灣區最近的世外桃源, 環境真的超清幽, 歡迎大家來這裡享受一下.

Diaries, Hypnotherapy, Self-Improvement

The Power of Intention

(中文版在最下方) I was sitting in downtown Sunnyvale’s coffee shop early this morning, next to a wide-open window so I can feel the breeze from the wind, the cool crisp fresh air, the old love song playing in the shop with my hot coffee, and I can see the street path closed-off with lots of booths were setting up because it is the Art and Wine Festival this weekend. At that moment, I truly felt that life is good, so many things to be grateful for, and I haven’t had this type of feeling for so long. I know I have got out of the dark tunnel finally.

On top of that, I start seeing the power of the intention.

Lately, I keep thinking about what I want in life at this point forward, and what is my goal for my healing biz. I went through a lot in life (I know there are many people had a worse life than mine; however, there is no need to compare pain unless you are trying to diminish someone’s pain existence which is not my goal here), and the last 5 years were the worsed; however, it also teaches me the greatest life lessons that I wouldn’t have learned otherwise. For that, I thank myself for not giving up although I have thought about it a few times. I am also very thankful for those family and friends who have been there all these years for me.

So I would like to return the favor and paying forward.  I said to the universe that I want to let more people know about the power and the benefits of the Sound Healing and Hypnotherapy, and use these two modalities among other things that I know or have learned to help others to heal themselves from whatever trauma that they have been through. I ask the universe to help me and guide me to find a way to get into all big high-tech companies’ wellness program for their hard-working employees who live in a high-stress life.  I believe the universe will make that happen.

And all of sudden, I have four new clients from Yelp booked appointments within two weeks. On top of that, I got an email from the Intuit‘s Wellness and Lifestyle Expo organizer who offer me to hosting a booth and educate their employees about my services and get the opportunity to book new clients on site. Intuit has 2500 employees and expect 500 would attend the event. I take it as a sign that the universe is responding to my intention.

Plus, possibly to do workshops with acupuncturists with Sound Bath (where I got that idea from).

By the way, if you are a yoga instructor specialize in either Yin yoga, Restorative yoga, yoga Nidra or you lead meditation, please contact me.  I would like to create a workshop together.

Or if you are interested to host a Sound Bath for your special private event, let me know.

Stanford’s Health Improvement Program has a regular Sound Immersion event at the Graduate Community Center.

Thank you for the universe, the God, the Buddha, the higher power, whatever that is, Thank you for helping me so I can help others.  I wish everyone can live in a healthy and happy life.

 

今天一大早我一個人坐在Sunnyvale市中心的一家咖啡館靠窗的位子, 窗戶敞開, 我可以感受到涼爽的微風吹在我臉上, 呼吸著新鮮的空氣, 咖啡廳裡放熟悉的老情歌, 我正享受著香氣撲鼻的熱拿鐵. 我看著窗外正在準備的攤位, 原來這二天剛好是Sunnyvale的藝術和美酒節. 在這個當下, 我真心感受到生命的美好, 有好多事是值得心存感恩的, 而我已經許久不曾有這樣的感覺, 這讓我知道, 我已經走出那個黑暗的隧道了.

而且, 我開始感受到 “意念” 的力量.

最近我一直在想我接下來的歲月想要過什麼樣的人生, 還有我對我的療癒工作的目標是什麼. 我這一路上經歷過許多 (我知道有很多人有比我更痛苦更慘的經歷, 但我無意與他人的痛苦比較, 因為痛苦是真實的, 比較的心態似乎有貶低痛苦的事實, 其實沒有意義, 也不是我的目的). 在過去的五年是我最痛苦的時候, 但也教會我許多人生很寶貴的一些事情, 如果沒有這些經歷, 有可能我沒機會學會. 為此, 我要感謝自己, 這一路走來沒有放棄自己 (雖然我考慮過幾次). 我也非常感謝這一路相伴的親朋好友.

所以我希望能回饋, 我過去接受過別人的幫助, 現在我希望我也有能力幫助別人. 我向老天許願, 希望能讓更多人知道頌缽音療和催眠的力量和好處, 讓我用我所學所知的東西來幫助別人, 讓他們也能從過去的傷痛當中慢慢療癒自己. 我請老天幫忙, 引領我找到一個管道或方式進入各大科技公司的Wellness Program, 來幫助那些身處高壓工作環境的員工, 我相信老天會實現我的願望的.

結果沒幾天, 我突然收到四位預約音療和催眠的新客戶, 然後收到一封來自主辦Intuit Wellness & Lifestyle Expo的電郵, 邀請我參加, 讓我介紹和教育Intuit的員工有關我的音療和催眠. Intuit有二千五百位員工, 預計五百位會參加Expo, 我把這突如其來的機會當做老天聽到我的許願了.

另外, 我正在和幾位中醫師討論合辦針灸和音療的活動.

如果你是瑜珈老師, 或是靜坐老師, 有興趣和我一起合辦活動的話, 請和我聯絡.

如果你有興趣聘請我去幫你做一個私人的Sound bath, 也請聯絡我.

史丹佛的改善健康的活動中有一個固定的音療活動.

感謝老天, 神明, 看不見得更大力量, 不管是什麼, 我都感謝你的幫助. 我希望每個人都過著健康快樂的生活.

Education, Vibrational Sound Therapy

[頌缽音療] Atma Buti Sound and Vibrational School in Boulder, CO.

Vibrational Sound Association2017年八月底所開的課程是我第一個Sound Therapy課程, 從此以後就愛上了頌缽音療, 這一年多來也幫不少朋友和客人做療程, 體驗過的人個個讚賞. 今年初我在East West Bookstore看到一本How To Heal With Singing Bowls的書, 才知道Boulder, CO有一間Atma Buti Sound and Vibrational School, 於是上官網查個仔細.

Atma Buti ® is a Sanskrit word and that translates to Soul Medicine, 創辦人Suren Shrestha來自尼泊爾, 他跟頌缽的因緣從1999年開始, 頌缽音療從2003年開始, 在2009年出版了第一本書 (已被翻譯成韓文, 日文, 義大利文), 所有來自書籍和部分的教學收入都直接捐助尼泊爾的Orphanage Projects 來幫助貧困的小孩受教育.

因為時間剛好連續, 所以想一口氣拿完Level I, II, III (後面還有Level IV and V, 但日期不同, 得擇期再來), 但是我掙扎了很久, 因為學費+住宿+伙食+租車, 一週下來的費用可觀, 思考了幾個月, 為了增進自己好幫助別人, 眼睛閉著就報名了. (六月份還有Level IV and V, 各三天, 但分二週)

這是我第一次來Colorado (寬闊又綠), 第一次住Airbnb (好經驗), 第一次租車開KIA 2020年份的新車 (才開了600 miles), 一共有14位學生 (據說以往都十位左右), 來自美國各地 (有幾位原本來自尼泊爾, 台灣, 印度, 日本, 英國, 葡萄牙, 但都在美國住很多年了), 有幾位是因為看了書後報名課程, 有幾位是參加Tucson’s Gem Show遇到Suren Shrestha的頌缽攤位後報名課程, 總之, 大家會一起在這裡上課絕不是巧合, 會坐在誰旁邊也都是老天安排好的 (我左邊的同學有冬天憂鬱症, 我右邊的同學住的Airbnb離我不遠).

Level I 的第一天基本上就是把要拿證書的規定講一遍, 然後同學自我介紹, 把我們面前的玩具一一介紹. 第二天學習Rubing bowls and move it around at the same time, 不太容易, 需要多練習才會熟練. 有些缽會比某些缽要容易擦響.

想像一下你身體裡面的水跟我放在你身上的頌缽共震的情況, 你不覺得很神奇嗎?

Level II 便開始教不同頌缽的排列組合, 來因應不同狀況, 上面是單純放鬆, 開第三眼, 和平衡脈輪的排列, 結合銅鈴, 則有不同的敲法順序.

老師講解完後, 我們分組練習, 一組三人. 這些按摩床的外圍都有經過加工, 才有辦法放那麼多個缽. 我可能選擇改用幾張小的折疊桌, 方便收納和攜帶.

今晚剛好是滿月, 所以加開一場滿月的Sound Concert. 真的超舒服, 好睡的.

隔天早上Suren Shrestha解釋他的頌缽排法和敲法, 然後讓大家輪流嘗試和練習. 下午學著缽裡放點熱水, 放在身上滑動和Rubing.

Level III 教幾種專門針對清理/平衡脈輪, 處理情緒 (壓力, 憂鬱症, 負面能量), 身體病痛 (關節炎, 高血壓), 以及雙缽同時滑缽(Rubbing)的深度放鬆等不同頌缽組合排列.

結業了!!!

在Boulder, CO的一週, 從80F一路下降到35F下雪, 還好我有帶一件厚外套, 加上多數時間都在室內, 不過還是覺得一週天氣變化的落差之大, 很不可思議.

我買了一組七個的脈輪缽, 都是我一個一個挑選出來的, 用Tuner去測試每一個缽, 確保每一個音對照脈輪都是準確的, 然後七個缽敲起來的音調也符合耳朵的舒適. 花了好幾個小時的時間挑選啊. 我另外還精心挑選了三個不同大小的心輪缽回來, 只賣給有緣人囉!!!