Diaries, Hypnotherapy, Self-Improvement

Watch Your Words

[中文在英文之後]

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語言是很有力量的, 我們平時用什麼字眼對自己說話, 或是對別人說話, 會產生很大的差異. 如果我們能改變說話的用字選擇, 我們就可以改變我們的人生. 讓2021 的新年新希望提早開始吧, 參加這個三十天免費的訓練, 來重新學習用正確的字眼對自己說話. 如果你不懂英文, 我會每天把英文原文和中譯文貼在下方, 並加註我自己一點的心得分享*, 歡迎你留言分享你自己的練習語.

Day 1

I Can’t afford it. > Change to  > I no longer believe that I can’t afford xxx, instead I know that it is not a financial priority at this time.

我買不起 或是 我負擔不起  > 改成 > 我不是負擔不起(一趟歐洲旅遊), 只是目前在我的開銷名單上, 它不是最重要的. 或是, 它不在我目前的預算內.

* 每個人對於開支, 有輕重緩急的先後順序, 也就是預算. 有時候不是負擔不起, 只是目前我有更重要的地方需要用錢. 所以與其告訴自己我負擔不起 (負面用語), 何不改成, 只是目前在我的開銷名單上, 它不是最重要的. 或者 它不在我目前的預算內, 這樣也等於把決定權拿回自己的手上, 是由你決定哪時候你想要擁有.

Day 2

I don’t want . . . > Change to  > I prefer to xxx.

我不要 > 改成 > 我選擇 (維持體態健美) 或者 我要 (擁有好身材).

* 我們的淺意識是無法分辨 要 或 不要, 它只專注在那個重點. 當我們的腦袋想著, 我不要變胖, 我不要變窮, 我不要嫁給禿頭中廣的, 我不要xxx, 淺意識只會專注在 胖 窮 禿頭中廣. 所以, 請改變你的語言, 進而改變你的淺意識, 專注在你想要的, 我要健康, 我要賺很多錢, 我要快樂, 我要升遷. . . .

Day 3

I can’t wait . . . > Change to  > I look forward to (seeing you).

我等不及 > 改成 > 我期待 (與你相見)

*二者都有興奮感, 差別在於, 前者是出自不滿足和沒耐性的角度, 感覺有點急躁, 而後者是以較平靜的心態來看待未來.

Day 4

I have to . . . > Change to  > I get to (cook for my family)

我必須 > 改成 > 我得以 (為家人做飯)

*前者感覺是個責任, 不一定是很情願地做, 好像我們沒有選擇, 而實際上, 我們一定有選擇的, 是我們”自認為”(Perception)我們沒有選擇, 而後者感覺是自願的, 帶有感恩的心情.

Day 5

I should . . . > Change to  > Do I want to xxx or do I need to xxx? What are my options? 

我應該 (洗衣服) > 改成 > 我想要 或 我需要 (洗衣服嗎?) 我有哪些選擇?

* 前者帶有罪惡感, 或者被逼迫, 但感覺沒選擇, 而後者則是詢問自己是否真的需要或想要做某件事情, 有沒有其他選擇呢?

Day 6

I shouldn’t have  . . . > Change to  > I learned xxx from this experience.

我不該 > 改成 > 我從xxx學到一個經驗 ()

Day 7

I  . . . > Change to  >

我 > 改成 > ()

Diaries, Self-Improvement

Project: Today I am thankful for

Dear Friends,
I am going to do this project for my self-awareness as a daily reminder to focus on the positive things in life because I often forget the good and tend to remember the bad so this is my way of helping myself to rebalance that. You are welcome to join me. I will post mine daily on my Facebook and here, and you can leave yours in the message. Together, we can be better, happier, and healthier. (How to be happy)
親愛的朋友,
我從今天開始要做一個自我提醒的 “每日感謝” 活動, 用來提醒自己每天發生在周遭值得感謝的大事和小事, 因為我似乎較常記得壞事, 而常忘記好事, 而這個每日感謝的自我提醒活動, 目的就是為了幫助我自己平衡和改變. 歡迎你和我一起, 我會每天貼在我的臉書上, 你可以把你所感謝的事, 用留言的方式和我分享. 我們可以一起, 變得更好, 更開心, 更健康. (耶魯快樂課)

11/12/2020 (Day 1):

Today, I am thankful for those wonderful families and friends that make me feel loved and appreciated. I hope I have made you feel the same way.

今天, 我感謝一票美好的親朋好友, 我感受到他們對我的愛和感謝. 希望我也讓你們有得到相同的感受.

11/13/2020 (Day 2):

Today, I am thankful for enjoying a simple breakfast and a cup of coffee at home.

今天, 我感謝我能在家享受一頓簡單的早餐和一杯咖啡.

11/14/2020 (Day 3):

Today, I am thankful for the technology that I can have a heart-touching conversation with an old friend who lives in another country via Facetime.

今天, 我感謝科技, 讓我能夠和住在另外一個國家的老友用視訊的方式聊一些心事.

11/15/2020 (Day 4):

Today, I am thankful for my awareness of the mistakes I have made and the need for changes.

今天,我感謝自己有覺察到過去所犯的錯,以及需要改變的地方。

11/16/2020 (Day 5):

Today, I am thankful for the process of learning how to stay with my negative emotions when I feeling down.

今天,我感謝自己慢慢學習, 當我感到低落的時候, 如何與自己的負面情緒相處.

11/17/2020 (Day 6):

Today, I am thankful for the ability to learn that I am enough, I am worth it, and I am loved. At least, I need to believe it myself.

今天,我感謝自己有能力去學習, 我是夠好的, 我是值得的, 我是被愛的. 至少, 我自己必須相信.

11/18/2020 (Day 7):

Today, I am thankful for the reminders that I received from therapists and friends to focus on what I have done/achieved (or did well) so that I will focus on what other have done for me (instead of what have not been done or didn’t do well) because I can’t give others what I don’t have.

今天,我感謝諮商師和朋友們不時提醒我, 將注意力放在我已經做到和完成 (或做得不錯)的事情, 這樣我才會將注意力放在別人為我所做的事情上 (而不是沒有做到或做得不夠好的事), 因為我無法給別人我自己沒有的東西.

11/19/2020 (Day 8):

Today, I am thankful for myself putting efforts to stay as healthy as I can for my body, my mind, and my soul.

今天,我感謝自己盡力保持自己在身體/心理/心靈上的健康.

11/20/2020 (Day 9):

Today, I am thankful for the patients I have developed over the years so I don’t sweat the small things.

今天,我感謝自己過去幾年來培養的耐性, 讓我不再為小事而動氣.

11/21/2020 (Day 10):

Today, I am thankful for the trust that my clients have in me to share their pain and issues with me, and together we help each other to heal.

今天,我感謝我的個案對我的信任, 告訴我他們的傷痛和問題, 讓我們幫助彼此療癒.

11/22/2020 (Day 11):

Today, I am thankful for the opportunity to witness my good friends’ wedding because they show me what true love takes.

今天,我感謝有機會見證好友的婚禮, 因為他們讓我看到什麼是真愛. 

11/23/2020 (Day 12):

Today, I am thankful for a warm sunny day today.

今天,我感謝今天晴朗溫暖的天氣.

11/24/2020 (Day 13):

Today, I am thankful for

今天,我感謝

11/25/2020 (Day 14):

Today, I am thankful for

今天,我感謝

11/24/2020 (Day 15):

Today, I am thankful for

今天,我感謝

Diaries, Trip to N. CA

Mount Shasta

The last time I went to Mount Shasta was back in the summer of 2018 with two of my girlfriends for a Sound Healing event. This time, I went with my Chinese Calligraphy teacher, his wife and daughter, and one of his students (our Qigong/Self-defense teacher) for 3 days.

上次我去雪士達山是2018的暑假, 我和我二位女友去參加一個音療活動. 而這次的三天二夜, 是和我的書法老師Mr. Chang, 師母, 他們的女兒Christine, 和另外一位書法同學Paul (也是我們的氣功/防身術的老師, 本身是中醫師).

They are like my family in California. I have known them since 2011 when I begin my calligraphy classes and my first group Calligraphy Group Exhibition was in 2014. Unfortunately, I stopped my classes after that due to personal issues but we stay in touched and finally I picked it up again in 2019 from the beginning.

他們就像是我在加州的家人. 我從2011年就開始和張老師學習書法, 並在2014年參加師生聯展. 可惜我因私人因素在那之後暫停書法課程, 但我們一直有保持聯絡, 而我在2019年又開始上書法課, 而且是從頭開始.

They said they haven’t been out since SIP in March so we decided to go to Mount Shasta for 3 days. From the Bay Area, it’s about 4 hours drive. We stayed in an Airbnb with 3 bedrooms/2 baths, a good size kitchen and dining area, and surrounded by lots of trees. It’s very closed to the Sacramento River Headwaters and the downtown. We brought most of our food to make our breakfasts and dinners; however, they have three supermarkets in the town as well.

他們自從三月因為疫情就沒出門玩, 所以我們決定去雪士達山玩三天, 從灣區開車北上大概四小時車程. 我們訂了一間三房二衛, 蠻大的廚房和餐桌, 而且外面圍繞很多樹的Airbnb, 地點離市區和山泉水上游很近. 我們從灣區帶了一些食材, 所以早餐和晚餐都是自己煮, 市區有三間超市可買東西.

The fresh Spring water is very very cold but tastes very very good.  I saw many people bring lots of large 5-10 gallon water containers to take fresh Spring water home.

新鮮的山泉水非常的冰冷, 但非常的美味. 我看到很多人帶著5-10 加侖的大水壺來裝水回家.

When we were there, only the Bunny Flats trail is open, we couldn’t drive to Panther Meadows Trailhead (upper). As far as the Bunny Flat trail, it’s covered with snow.  There aren’t many people there so it’s kind of nice.

我們去到Bunny Flat的時候發現無法再往北開, 而Bunny Flats trail 也是被白雪覆蓋, 不過人不是很多也挺好的.

Burney Falls is an easy walk and very well worth it. The falls are huge!!!

Burney Falls 很值得去看, 一來很容易走到, 二來景觀壯碩.

We had so much fun. Three days is too short so we are thinking about where we want to go in December!!! LOL

我們玩得太開心了, 覺得三天實在太短了, 所以已經開始想下個月要上哪玩了!!!

Diaries, National Parks, Trip to Pacific Northwest

Visiting Oregon/Washington States

I drove 12 hours up to Vancouver, WA (15 min North of Portland, Oregon; 2.5 hours South of Seattle) with three stops for gas and restroom to meet up with an old roommate/a good friend because I want a break from California (fewer people/traffic, a different view of the season, just something different) for a week. We were lucky with sunny weather for the first few days so we get to do a few hiking in different places. (The benefit to living in Vancouver, WA is that they don’t have an income tax and you can drive to Oregon shopping with no sales tax)

我開了12個小時的車, 北上去華盛頓州的溫哥華市 (它離奧瑞岡州的波特蘭市只要十五分鐘, 離西雅圖則要二個半小時) 去見一位老友(我們曾當三年室友), 因為我想去一個人車都比較少, 有不同景色的地方放個假, 喘口氣. 我去了一週, 一開始幾天的天氣很晴朗 (還是比加州冷), 所以我們去不同地方走走. (住在華盛頓州的優點, 是華州沒有所得稅, 你可以開車去奧瑞岡州購物而沒有銷售稅!!)

(The trail of Ten Falls, Silver Falls State Park, Oregon)

We start with the Silver Falls State Park in Oregon. We walked 9 miles in 3.5 hours.

我們第一天先去奧瑞岡州的Silver Falls State Park健走, 三個半小時走了九英里 (超過二萬步)

(Hoh Rainforest, Olympic NP, WA)

On the day of Halloween, we went to Hoh Rainforest, inside of the Olympic NP, WA, is one of the largest temperate rainforests in the U.S. Mosses and ferns are everywhere which feels perfect for Halloween!!!

萬聖節那天我們去Hoh Rainforest, 在華州的奧林匹克國家公園裡面, 這是美國最大的溫帶雨林之一, 苔蘚和蕨類植物到處都是, 整個地方就像是特別為萬聖節所佈置的!!!

(Kalaloch Beach & Rialto Beach inside of the Olympic NP, WA)

(Paradise in Mount Rainier)

(Columbia River Gorge View Point)

(Multnomah Falls, Portland, Oregon)

Although the last two days begin to rain and foggy, the views are still beautiful. We had a great time catching up and enjoy each other’s company.

雖然最後二天開始下雨並起霧, 但是景色依舊美麗. 我們非常享受這一週相聚的時間, 離別時其實很不捨!

 

Diaries

My last event for Aveinda’s Village

Today’s “Lunch at the Park” was the last event I arranged for Avenidas Village. I am the Social Event Coordinator which was a new position that Village members created so I was the lucky one who gets to do many fun things with them for the last 21 months. (the photo above was my first event back in Nov 2018)

Since the COVID-19 hit, we are not able to do anything because they are the high-risk group so sadly I have to leave the job now and find something else.

Many of the members emailed me to tell me how they feel, and it really warms my heart,

Dear Sarbrina, I will miss you and I’m glad to have attended some activities you’ve organized. You have a way of making people (me) feel included. Best wishes always, -C.K.

Dear Sabrina, You are such a kind, thoughtful, young woen and I will miss you as I know all of the Villagers will as well. Stay well and happy, -C.H.

Dear Sabrina, Your many accomplishments for Avenidas Village are impressive! Thank you for your excellent contributions to Avenidas Village seniors health, safety, and happiness. -M.M.

Dear Sabrina, I am very sad and sorry to know that you will be leaving AV. I didn’t even have a chance to know you better and to attend more of your outings. I would like to tell you how much we enjoy knowing you. We appreciate and are grateful for all you have done for us during this time of lockdown. We will certainly miss you. Keep well, -S.L.

Dear Sabrina, I will not be at the lunch but I do want to tell you how sorry I am that you will be leaving AV. I will miss you as I am sure many other Villagers will. You have always been a cheerful, friendly, helpful person. You have done an amazing job for us. With good luck in all your future endeavors, -Z.Z.

Dear Sabrina, I want to say thanks and goodbye to you even though I’m upset at your leaving. I was really enjoying the places that you chose for us to visit. There is no easy way to say goodbye to someone who has brought such fun to me in the months that I have known you. -G.G.

Today I arrange one last gathering (I haven’t seen most of them since mid-March) so I get to see my regulars and a few new faces one more time and say goodbye. One member even just drove by to give me a card and drove home (because she didn’t want to say goodbye). I was reading the cards they gave me after I got home and my tears just couldn’t stop. You have treated me well and I am going to miss you all. I wish you all safe and healthy because I want to see you again in the near future.