Dating, Self-Improvement

The Healing in Relationships Program by Artie Wu | Preside Life

感情 – 應該是所有人的生命中最常問的前三大問題 (感情, 金錢, 工作), 不論是卜卦問神算流年或諮商, 問得不外乎這三個主題 (我自己的經驗也是), 情侶或夫妻之間的感情問題大概是一輩子的功課 (親子問題緊接在後). 我這輩子一路走到這, 也經歷了不少人生上的各式問題, 也因此開啟了我走上自我成長和修行的這條路, 因為我希望能減少痛苦, 尤其是來自心靈上的痛苦 (當然也不想有身體上的痛苦), 所以我也接受了好幾年的心理諮商, 看了一些有關感情/婚姻或身心靈方面的書, 接觸和學習不同的療癒方式和身心靈的課程, 慢慢的發現, 追根究底到最後, 很多根源都來自童年, 甚至在媽媽的子宮就開始 (暫且不提前世那一塊). 每個人的個性不同, 對於所發生的事的接收和反應也不同, 加上兄弟姐妹之間的年紀差距 (代表事情發生的時間點不同), 所以即便是同一個家庭的兄弟姐妹, 最後的發展也不同.

我的療癒個案每次跟我說她覺得她不太正常, 我都會用很理解和溫柔的微笑回答說, 沒有一個人是正常的, 每個人身上都背負很多來自兒時的傷痛, 只是多寡和深淺不同, 所以站在那個角度來看, 我們都很正常, 因為我不知道哪個家庭是真的都沒有任何問題, 就算有, 也是極少數. 當我們日子過得順利時, 我們通常不太會花時間精力去思考一些 “重要的人生課題”, 只有當重大事件發生時, 例如生重病, 有親人過世, 離婚, 或者像這次的武漢疫情, 美國加州政府下令就地避難已經12週, 還不知道要持續多久, 所有事情瞬間停擺, 等等特殊情況下, 我們被迫放下原本習慣的生活模式, 多出很多時間不知所措的時候, 才有機會迫使我們去思考, 我們人生走到這一步, 目前擁有的 (不論是工作, 關係狀態, 財務狀況, 生活方式等等) 是我們想要的嗎?

所以有些看似大災難的事件, 換個角度想, 也許是上天給你的禮物, 危機也可能是個轉機, 端看你用哪個角度和心情去看, 你會有完全不同的體驗.

回到感情問題, 有一些我們本身的問題如果沒有解決, 我們會一直遇到不同的人, 重複相同或類似的問題, 然後分開. 沒知覺的人會一直重複這樣的狀況, 有知覺的人會開始尋求幫助, 找諮商師, 看書或上課, 然後先解決自己本身的問題, 從自己開始改變, 才會開始慢慢看到不同的結果.

臉書是一個很厲害的地方, 因為我不知道為什麼, 它突然出現這個人的影片在我的臉書上, 而且就剛好是有關感情問題. 看完他的預告短片, 再點進去看他的網站, 他的自我介紹裡說他是哈佛和史丹福畢業的, 之前創辦二個科技公司, 從小開始打坐冥想超過三十年, 2011年開始這個Preside是因為興趣, 他想幫助大家學習讓自己的腦袋靜下來, 所以他寫了很多主題的文章, 和路了很多影片, 根據他幫助過的上千人所累積的經驗, 將課程分成三大類 Meditation, Healing, Bliss, 然後每一類裡再細分幾種課程. 他的Open Group冥想課程是免費的, 而且都只有三到五分鐘, 很適合沒經驗但想開始嘗試冥想的人. 他另外還有付費的私人團體冥想課程. 而他的Healing課程裡有三個主題 – 七天的Self, 四週的Parenting, 12週的Realtionship, 看到學生的課後感言都非常正面和激勵, 讓我很想試試.

以下影片是有關12週的Relationship program,

How to Decide on Ending a Relationship

When a person is thinking about leaving their relationship, one of the biggest fears is “fear of making the wrong choice” – either leaving a secure relationship and not finding something better or staying and suffering even more, with no lasting improvement and wasting precious time. The reason it’s so hard to make a “stay-or-leave” decision with confidence is that we often don’t know the true deeper reason we are actually unhappy in our relationships – which is deeper than the typical complaints of poor communication, lack of trust and diminished passion.

In reality, the deepest core reason for unhappiness in a relationship is most deeply rooted in the pre-existing emotional wounds that each partner has had – often from childhood – even before you both got together or even met. These preexisting emotional wounds will often be overlooked in the passionate beginning of a relationship, but then, left unhealed, these emotional wounds will be the root cause of all other major relationship issues later on.

The ideal process for assessing your relationship, with full clarity and confidence, would be to:

A. Map the preexisting emotional wounds of each partner (see below).

B. Begin healing the wound pattern in each partner, starting with the easiest wounds first and working up from there, slowly.

C. Make an interim plan to reduce co-wounding each other, to give the healing process some time to take effect.

After this process, you may decide that continuing the relationship no longer makes sense, and that is a possible outcome as well.

But with a full and proper wound mapping, you will at least be able to make your “stay-or-leave” decision with full confidence and clarity, to save your energy for the road ahead.

The Healing in Relationships Program

To help with this entire process, I teach a powerful, intensive program called “Healing in Relationships”, which dives deeply into how co-wounding in relationships happens, based on a powerful method of “mapping” each partner’s preexisting emotional wounds with a series of simple but comprehensive exercises. Using these customized “wound mappings” for each of you, we then identify how your wound patterns cause each of you to accidentally co-wound and “poke the preexisting wounds” of each other, which then leads to an escalating spiral of back-and-forth over the years and even decades.

Once you have this mapping, it will act as a kind of “x-ray vision” for you to see the real dynamics of why there is so much frustration and unhappiness, and you can then make a clear and confident decision about whether you want to stay and work on these issues (which the program also helps with), or if it may be time to stop the relationship in its current form. You do not have to convince your partner to do the program with you – it is designed to be done by you on a solo basis, individually and in private, and once you have the full two-way wound mapping of the relationship, you can make a plan as to what you want to do, and how to share your learnings with your partner.

Watch the video below to hear the introductory session of this powerful program which is completely confidential, hassle-free and 100% online.

I guarantee that by the end of this 12-minute briefing, you will already feel better, and will have a clear path for how to fully heal the patterns of co-wounding in your own romantic relationship, and how to unlock the full power of the nurturing, support and nourishment in your life that you fully desire and fully deserve.

Warmly,

Artie
Founder, preside meditation

有興趣的可以上他的網站看看, 或是點選他的文章影片, 希望這個資訊能幫助到需要幫助的人. 自我成長需要耐心, 時間和意願, 但最大的受益者, 是我們自己.

最後想再和大家分享另外一篇來得及巧的文章, (她的文章總是來得剛剛好, 非常奇妙), 她的部落格上還有許多很棒的文章喔!

只要向宇宙請求指引,只要你願意耐心地走下去讓宇宙開始愛你

親愛的,

當你感到苦惱時,
你需要明白,
每一次困苦之中,
你都在生成一個全新的自我,
它正在努力誕生,
也許你現在遇到困境,
也或許你過去遇到了危機,
意識中沒有時間限制,
你需要重新的調整內在,
改變自己的視野,
釋放自己的痛苦,
原諒自己的無助,
最終看見自己正在學習什麼。
當你穿越這樣的困境,
那裏正在教會你一種品質,
將你的變得,
更勇敢,
更堅定,
更清晰,
更有愛,
更有耐心,
更明白你想要的是什麼。
實際上你正在被照顧著,
只要當你專注著,
內在最高的道路,
在這條路上,
你會發現你會走得更輕鬆,
當你走著別人的道路,
你會覺得自己走得很費力,
宇宙給予你的是,
真正內在的核心品質,
但你不能用特定方式,
要求宇宙給予你滿足,
而是讓宇宙用各種方法,
來滿足你的需求,
那種安定、
那種被愛、
那種放鬆,
為你帶來巨大的豐盛。
你為自己設定什麼舊有意象,
當你擁有這些陳舊的畫面,
那些執著與煩惱,
就會再次顯現,
放下那種執著,
這種執著會為你自身帶來限制,
這樣的限制卻帶來痛苦,
為自己創建新的意象,
妳可以請求指引,
並信任那來到的指引,
可能只是一些瑣事,
然而這些瑣事會不停的幫助你前進,
使你越來越靠近,
內心所想要擁有的品質,
有時候你可能懷疑,
這真的有幫助嗎?
因為太過於簡單、
太過於細小,
使你覺得,
那並不可能會轉變什麼,
但請相信那樣的直覺,
一但你決定,
往內在最高方向前進,
帶來的豐盛,
超乎你的想像,
只需要時間,
給予你自己時間,
當你有問題,
把問題交給宇宙,
讓宇宙幫助你,
當你有困難,
把問題交給宇宙,
讓宇宙指引你,
你並不孤單,
你並沒有被拋棄,
那裏總是為你敞開,
只要你願意耐心地走下去。
祝福你
亞蒂絲
Health & Beauty, Life Style, Vibrational Sound Therapy

2020 Sound Bath Events from Six Senses Healing

Feel stressed, anxious or even depressed? Having trouble sleeping? Can’t relax or stay calm?

Try Sound Baths!!! Some people unwind with a long bubble bath or a glass of wine. Others prefer a sound bath session. A sound bath experience is a great alternative way for anyone who has not yet learned how to meditate on their own. Music has been used for its therapeutic effects for thousands of years.

The sound frequency and the vibrations stimulate the brain and the Vagus nerve system so when your body and mind are relaxed, the brain will release happy chemicals (Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin, and Endorphins), and higher Vagal tone makes your body better at regulating blood glucose levels, reducing the likelihood of diabetes and cardiovascular disease.  The immune system is at its best when we are relaxed.

In 2020, We are going to have not only the Sound Bath but also incorporate with different Monthly Theme-Focused Guided Meditation, and aromatherapy. So please mark your calendar and join us for a happier and healthier 2020!!!

Come unwind with Sound Bath and enjoy deep relaxation

*Palo Alto on 2nd & 4th  Mondays @ 3:00-4:00 pm @ Avenidas (3d floor Fitness Room) 450 Bryant St, Palo Alto 94301

Please call 650-289-5400 to register. ($30 non-member/ for age 50+ only)

Los Altos Hills on 2nd Mondays (4/13, 5/11, 6/8, 7/13) @ 6-7pm (Free Demo 3/20 @ 6pm)

@ Town Hall 26379 Fremont Rd, Los Altos Hills 94022

RSVP at 650-947-2506 or Check online at SixSensesHealing.com

Los Gatos on 2nd & 4th Mondays (6/8, 22, 7/13, 27, 8/10, 24) @ 9-10am ($180/6 sessions or $35 Drop-in)

Los Gatos on 1st & 3rd Tuesdays (6/2, 16, 30, 7/7, 21, 8/4, 18) @ 7-8pm ($210/7 sessions or $35 Drop-in)

@ Adult Center 208 E. Main St, Los Gatos 95030

Saratoga on 1st & 3rd Sundays (6/7, 21, 7/5, 19, 8/2, 16, 30) @ 5-6pm ($210/7 sessions or $35 Drop-in)

@ Prospect Center Friendship Hall 19824 Prospect Rd, Saratoga 95070

RSVP at 408-354-8700 or Check online at SixSensesHealing.com

Guided Meditation with Sound Bath

Menlo Park on 1st Mondays @ 6:00-7:30 pm  $ 35 @ Little House (Garden Room) 800 Middle Ave, Menlo Park 94025

West San Jose on 2nd Sundays @ 4:30-6 pm $35 @ innerTREAT Wellness Center 1340 S. De Anza Blvd #104, San Jose 95129

Essential Oils Infused Sound Bath with Guided Meditation

**West San Jose on 4th Sundays @ 4:30-6 pm $35 @ innerTREAT Wellness Center 1340 S. De Anza Blvd #104, San Jose 95129

 

– Guided Meditation Monthly Themes –

January – New Year Visualization

February – Self-Love

March – Finding Your Authentic Self

April – More Playful

May – Discover Your Life Purpose

June – Attracting Abundance

July – Keeping Balance

August – Letting Go Of Control

September – Forgiveness

October – Self- Healing

November – Gratitude

December – Dealing with Holiday Stress

[Monthly Themes is subject to change]

 

***Please arrive 15 min before the event to check-in***

Advance Payment Required for RSVP

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Hypnotherapy, Qigong Therapy, Vibrational Sound Therapy

Six Senses Healing

Hello everyone,

I am announcing great news!!!  I have started a healing arts services, Six Senses Healing, to sharing what I know and what I believe in, with everyone who wants to experience a holistic approach with alternative medicine.

I was experiencing anxiety, panic attack, and depression for a few years, before and after my divorce.  Life feel like an emotional rollercoaster, and I feel lost and trapped in this chaotic, out of control ride.

To deal with the difficult time, I had try everything I could – seeing a Psychiatrist (try different type of antidepressant medicine that has different side effects such as 25 lb weight gain in one year or emotional numbness or suicidal thoughts), a counselor for three years, an acupuncturist, a chiropractor, a homeopathist, two hypnotherapists, a personal trainer, and a energy healer.

On top of that, I begin to study Kundalini Yoga, Meditation, Qigong, Vibrational Sound Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Emotional Freedom Technique, Aromatherapy, and other modalities.

It is the idea that those who seek to help others are doing so because they are, in turn, helping themselves. The harmony is created when you get connected with the “Inner Self”. You let the wings of freedom to guide your life. Rumi says “The wounds are the places where light enters.”  Healers have a desire to help others because of a difficult past, enormous pain and loss, and their work serving others ultimately heals themselves.

From learning and practicing these modalities showed me a self-discovery and self-realization path, which leads to how to live authentically according to one’s essence and purpose. Our wounds teach us life lessons. They create ways for us to connect, teach and touch other’s hearts with great Attunement, Empathy, and Sympathy.  I want to provide a safe place for others who are seeking help by empowering them to heal themselves.

Besides all the helps I got from the health professionals, the biggest help I got are from friends dear to me.  Their understanding and support and accompany are the reasons that help me through the hard time and for me to get back on my feet.  Without their love and caring, I won’t be alive today.  I am grateful for everyone who has helped me along the way.  In return, I would like to help others who are going through a hard time in life whether you are going through divorce or depression, I want you to know, you are not alone.  There is nothing to feel the shame of.  You have to seek outside help.  And I am happy to share my own experiences with you, offer you support, and help you with ways I know.

親愛的讀者,

我想要告訴你們一個好消息!! 我開始提供療癒服務 – 六感療癒, 將我所學, 所知, 所相信的, 來和想體驗一個考量整體的非主流醫學.

我自己在離婚前後幾年, 經歷過焦慮, 恐慌, 憂鬱症, 那個情緒就像坐雲霄飛車一般, 我感到迷惘和被困住在這個無法控制的情況.

為了尋求康復, 我求助過精神科醫生 (吃過不同的抗憂鬱症藥, 經歷過不同的副作用), 看了三年的諮商師, 也看了中醫師, 整骨師, 自然療法師, 催眠師, 健身教練和能量師.

除此之外, 我還開始學習昆達里尼瑜珈, 打坐, 氣功, 震動聲音療法, 催眠, EFT情緒釋放技巧, 芳療和其他方式.

那些希望藉由幫助別人的人, 他們會選擇這樣做, 是因為他們相信最終會反過來幫到自己。 當你與“內心自我”聯繫時,就會產生和諧。 你讓自由的翅膀引導你的生活。 魯米說:“傷口就是光進入的地方。”治療師因為自己過去的傷痛和損失, 希望能夠透過幫助他人,反過來他們也從中得到療癒。

從學習和實踐這些方式, 提供我一條自我發現和自我實現的道路,引領著如何根據一個人的本質和目的過著真實的生活。 我們的傷口教會我們人生課程。 他們為我們創造了一種方式,通過極大的協調,同理心和同情來聯繫,教導和觸動他人的心靈。 我想為那些尋求幫助的人提供一個安全的地方,讓他們能夠自我治癒。

除了我從專業醫療人士那裡獲得的所有幫助外,我得到的最大幫助是來自親朋好友。 他們的理解,支持和陪伴是幫助我渡過難關並讓我重新站起來的原因。 沒有他們的愛和關懷,我不會活到今天。 我很感激所有幫助過我的人。 作為回報,我想幫助那些正在經歷痛苦的人,無論你是在經歷離婚還是憂鬱症,我想讓你知道,你並不孤單。 不需要感到丟臉。 你必須尋求外界的幫助。 我很樂意與你分享我自己的經驗,為你提供支持,並以我所知的方式幫助你。

Six Senses Healing – Hypnotherapy, Sound Healing, Qigong

 

Education, Healing Arts, Health & Beauty

Netflix Documentary: Heal

Director Kelly Noonan Gores’ documentary takes us on a scientific and spiritual journey where we discover that our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions have a huge impact on our health and ability to heal. The latest science reveals that we are not victims of unchangeable genes, nor should we buy into a scary prognosis. The fact is we have more control over our health and life than we have been taught to believe.

This film will empower you with a new understanding of the miraculous nature of the human body and the extraordinary healer within us all. HEAL not only taps into the brilliant minds of leading scientists and spiritual teachers but follows three people on actual high stakes healing journeys. Healing can be extremely complex and deeply personal, but it can also happen spontaneously in a moment. Through these inspiring and emotional stories, we find out what works, what doesn’t, and why.

Now available on Netflix!!! Or you can rent or buy via online platforms such as iTune, Amazon, etc. 

導演Kelly Noonan Gores的紀錄片帶我們進行科學和靈性之旅,探索我們的思想,信念和情緒對我們的健康和療癒能力有巨大影響。 最新的科學研究發現,我們不是無法改變基因的受害者,我們也不應該相信可怕的醫療預測結果。 事實上,我們對健康和生命的控制力是比我們被教導的要多。

這部電影將讓您對人體的神奇自癒和我們所有人當中那些非凡的療癒者有新的認識。 HEAL不僅能夠吸引領先科學家和靈性導師的傑出思想,而且還會跟隨三個人實際進行的高風險療癒之旅。 治療可能非常複雜且非常個人化,但它也可能在一瞬間自發發生。 通過這些鼓舞人心和情感的故事,我們發現哪些有效,哪些無效,以及為什麼。